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72 this or that questions for friends

These this or that questions for friends are for group chats, long calls, dinners that have slowed down, and the bit of a night where everyone starts arguing about nothing important.

Each one is written as a straight X or Y choice. Pick one, don’t add a third option, and make people explain the answer. The explanation is usually the better part.

You can run down the list in order, skip to a section, or let everyone take turns reading one out. If two friends answer at the same time, even better.

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funny this or that questions for friends

These are for low-stakes arguments and answers people will defend harder than they need to.

  1. 01Let everyone see your search history or let your friends write your dating app bio?
  2. 02Only speak in film quotes for a day or only speak in song lyrics for a day?
  3. 03Wear one squeaky shoe forever or have every chair creak loudly when you sit down?
  4. 04Accidentally wave at someone who wasn’t waving at you or say “you too” when a waiter says enjoy your meal?
  5. 05Be haunted by a very polite ghost or followed everywhere by a duck with strong opinions?
  6. 06Have your eyes closed in every photo or have food in your mouth in every photo?
  7. 07Narrate your supermarket shop out loud or clap once every time you enter a room?
  8. 08Rewatch your worst school presentation or have your first social media posts read aloud?
  9. 09Let your friends hear every stomach rumble or let them see every text you delete before sending?
  10. 10Be known for one terrible haircut or one terrible karaoke performance?
  11. 11Sneeze once during every serious moment or hiccup during every introduction?
  12. 12Lose every board game loudly or win every board game suspiciously?

food this or that questions for friends

Food choices get personal fast. Nobody agrees on the rules for sharing, sauces, leftovers, or the last slice.

  1. 01Eat fries that are too salty or crisps with no salt at all?
  2. 02At a shared table, take the last slice or insist someone else has it?
  3. 03Have a starter and no dessert or dessert and no starter?
  4. 04Eat food spicy enough to make you sweat or bland enough to annoy you?
  5. 05Eat the same breakfast every day or never repeat dinner for a month?
  6. 06Choose crunchy peanut butter or smooth peanut butter?
  7. 07Keep sauce on the side or pour sauce over everything?
  8. 08Have fancy tiny portions or messy huge portions?
  9. 09Cut a sandwich diagonally or leave it whole?
  10. 10Eat cold leftovers from the fridge or properly reheat them?
  11. 11Order lots of small plates to share or one main dish each?
  12. 12Have birthday cake with too much icing or birthday cake with no icing?

travel this or that questions for friends

Use these if your friends have ever planned a trip together and somehow made choosing a place to eat take an hour.

  1. 01Take a window seat with no legroom or an aisle seat where everyone bumps into you?
  2. 02Plan the city map before leaving or wander until someone gets hungry?
  3. 03Pack one small bag or overpack and pay for it later?
  4. 04Spend the day in museums or spend the day in markets?
  5. 05Take the scenic detour or take the fastest route?
  6. 06Stay in a room with a view far from everything or a plain room in the centre?
  7. 07Travel with someone who wakes up early or someone who is always nearly late?
  8. 08Buy a souvenir you will use or a souvenir that just sits on a shelf?
  9. 09Have a missed connection with a good story or a smooth trip nobody remembers?
  10. 10Visit a beach town in winter or a mountain town in summer?
  11. 11Ask a local for advice or trust the first decent review you find?
  12. 12Spend the trip money on the room or spend it on the meals?

this or that questions for adults at dinner

These are still easy, but they are about bills, hosting, apologies, and other small adult traps.

  1. 01Have a dinner party with assigned seats or let everyone sit wherever they land?
  2. 02Tell a friend their outfit is bad or let them leave the house happy?
  3. 03Split the bill exactly or round it evenly?
  4. 04Clean as you cook or cook first and face the wreckage later?
  5. 05Answer an unknown number or let it ring out?
  6. 06Arrive very early at the airport or cut it close and pretend it’s fine?
  7. 07Buy one expensive coat or five cheap coats?
  8. 08Say no immediately or say maybe and regret it for a week?
  9. 09Host everyone at your place or never host but always help wash up?
  10. 10Fix a small problem yourself or pay someone who knows what they’re doing?
  11. 11Keep old messages forever or delete everything once a year?
  12. 12Apologise first or wait until both people have calmed down?

this or that questions for teens in the group chat

These work for friends at school, on a call, or in the chat when nobody has said anything useful for ten minutes.

  1. 01Sit at the front and understand the lesson or sit at the back and hope?
  2. 02Go on a school trip with a strict schedule or have free time with bad lunch options?
  3. 03Make a shared playlist or let one person control the music?
  4. 04Be left on read by one person or get “k” from everyone?
  5. 05Borrow a charger or guard your battery percentage all day?
  6. 06Do a group project with your best friend or a reliable stranger?
  7. 07Post the photo where you look best or the one where everyone else looks best?
  8. 08Text first after an awkward pause or pretend nothing happened?
  9. 09Have a nickname you hate or have nobody know your name?
  10. 10Win a talent show by accident or lose and become a meme?
  11. 11Sit next to your crush in silence or talk too much and panic?
  12. 12Get a surprise quiz or a surprise presentation?

pop culture and hypothetical this or that questions for friends

No current celebrities, no references that die by next month. Just the kinds of choices people can argue about without needing homework.

  1. 01Live inside the last film you watched or the last book you read?
  2. 02Be the sidekick with the jokes or the villain with the wardrobe?
  3. 03Only watch endings first or never finish anything?
  4. 04Be famous for one brilliant thing or quietly good at many things?
  5. 05Go one day into the past or get one harmless spoiler for tomorrow?
  6. 06Have theme music everyone can hear or dramatic lighting whenever you enter a room?
  7. 07Pause one conversation or rewind one sentence?
  8. 08Have a robot assistant that takes everything literally or a magic object with vague instructions?
  9. 09Meet your favourite fictional character or swap lives with your least favourite for a week?
  10. 10Know the truth behind one mystery or keep the better version of the story?
  11. 11Live in a world with dragons and bad Wi-Fi or perfect Wi-Fi and no animals?
  12. 12Be remembered as the wise friend or the chaotic friend?

Getting the most out of them

Make everyone choose before explaining

If people explain first, they start negotiating with themselves. Get the X or Y answer, then let them argue the case.

Do not allow a secret third option

The forced choice is the point. If someone wants “both” or “depends”, make them pick the one they would choose today.

Ask the follow-up

After a surprising answer, ask why. That is where the useful stuff is, and where friends start admitting very specific habits.

Stop while it is still moving

Ten good questions are better than forty tired ones. If the answers get flat, switch sections or save the rest for later.

Questions about this list

What are good this or that questions for friends?

Good ones have two options that are close enough to make people pause. Food, travel, money, group chats, and tiny social habits work well because everyone has an opinion and nobody needs to prepare.

How do you play this or that with friends online?

Read one question out loud, have both people choose privately, then reveal together. If you want that reveal handled for you, Same Page is the two-player game on this site built around answering at the same time and flipping the answers together.

Are these questions okay for teens?

Yes. The teen section is written for school, group chats, photos, batteries, and awkward social choices. If you are using the full list with younger teens, you can skip the adult dinner section.

How many this or that questions should we ask?

For a quick round, use 10 to 15. For a longer call or group hangout, 30 is usually plenty. The game gets better when people explain their answers, so do not rush through the list like a checklist.

What makes a this or that question boring?

An obvious right answer usually kills it. “Free money or no free money?” is not a question. Better questions make both options a little tempting, a little annoying, or revealing in different ways.

Can this or that questions work with more than two friends?

Yes. Everyone can vote at once, then split into sides and argue it out. It is messier than two people, but the disagreements are usually the best part.

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